24 dec. 2008

sarbatoarEEE

Sa avem un Craciun molcutz de fericire
si aburit.. de bunatate!
:)

La multi ani!

2009 sa fie un an bucuros si mandru ca e parte din viata noastră!
Am fost la un concert la Ateneu, organizat pentru strangere de fonduri, pentru un ONG
Printre invitati, un cunoscut si apreciat violonist cu vioara lui speciala - apartinuse lui Enescu.
Canta Iarna, din Anotimpurile lui Vivaldi, lucrare in trei parti.
In sala, lume cu bani,pe scena bradut si toata butaforia...
Canta prima parte, se opreste dupa partitura
Se opreste inca o data, dupa mirare: sala aplauda, crezand ca aia fusese tot.
Reia. Partea a doua. Acelasi model.
Comentariu din partea vecinului meu, om imbatranit in Ateneu:
”De, baiete, daca vii sa canti la serbari!”

Asa ca ma gandesc sa va urez sa aveti un an in care sa cantati in chiar locul pentru care faceti performanta, onarandu-va viata si harul de la Dumnezeu.

17 dec. 2008

ce in-fiintari minunate pot determina cuvintele!

COACHING is about language - indeed.
Intraband, lasand oamenii sa vorbeasca despre si cu ei,
gasesc singuri acele urme ale lor mai eficace pentru ceea ce au ales sa fie in viata.
Urma este locul din care poti construi un fel de a fi.
Urma e locul in care vezi o directie si un sens.
Urma este locul in care esti cel mai aproape de tine,
fiind în afara ta, dar faptă a ta cunoscută de altul.

Iata cateva urme ale mele - de care ma bucur.
Si multumesc celor care mi le releva.

La 12:20am pe Decembrie 17, 2008, Amalia Picleanu a spus…
Magda este o persoana remarcabila, cu profunzimi, rigori si tolerante greu de egalat. Interlocutor de calitate, critic agreabil si responsabil, Magda constituie un reper pretios pentru cei ce vor sa isi slefuiasca stilul de comunicare.La 10:55am pe Decembrie 17, 2008, Virgil Palade a propus aceasta varianta de traducere la mica strofa din postarea precedenta

Putin timp imi ramase, si-atatea de facut,
Esti vesnic ocupat, ca mine – imi zic tacut-
Veni-va insa clipa ca un semnal divin,
Cand apa-n van cata-vom dar vom gasi doar vin.


14 dec. 2008

Rejoice of what I am!

understand who you can be
learn what to do for being it
rejoice of what you are

M.B. --- con-textu-al variations upon Kant

MAGDA BUNEACOACHING & TRAINING

COACHING INSTITUTE/Romania with METASYSTEME /France,
led by Alain Cardon, MCC ICF
COACHING FUNDAMENTALS
Silence and Listening Skills / The Art of Asking Questions
The ”Contract” in Coaching / ”Systems Approach” in Coaching
Length of course 8 days of course + 1 day of ICF exam simulation
Total course hours 56 + 7
(November 2006, January, March, June 2007)

COACHING INSTITUTE/Romania with METASYSTEME /France
Led by Alain Cardon, MCC
SUPERVISION AND MENTORING FOR COACHESLength of course 8 days
Total course hours 56
November 2006, January, March, June, October 2007


OTHER RELEVANT TRAININGS

Robert Dilts
Coaching for Identity Level
3 days seminar
March 2009, in Bucharest

HUMAN SYNERGISTICS International/ Romania ; led by Adrian Stanciu
FOUNDATION WORKSHOP for Circumplex model
Life Styles Inventory (LSI) – coaching, executive coaching, training, personal developmentGroup Styles Inventory (GSI) – training, coaching, team coaching
Organizational Culture Inventory (OCI) – organizational development, inter and intra department relationships
4 days / 25 hours
November 2007

HUMAN SYNERGISTICS International /Romania ; led by Adrian Stanciu
ADVANCED WORKSHOP for Circumplex model
Leadership Impact (LI) – executive coaching, strategic consultingManagement Effectiveness Profile System (MEPS) – designing performance management systems, alignment of the current culture with the ideal one, strategic change
3 days / 18 hours
December 2007

COACHING INSTITUTE/Romania ; led by Alain Cardon, MCC ICF
Excellence in Training/ COACHING MODULEPracticing The Coaching Relationship
Appropriate Communication Techniques, Questioning, Low Position, Body Language , Practicing how to be resolutely ”future oriented” and ”solution centered”, Practicing how to co-design ”homework” with clients, Practicing how to create self-managed follow-up.
2 days / 14hours
April 2006

COACHING INSTITUTE/Romania; led by John Parr, MSc,PTSTA
Excellence in Training/ TRANSACTIONAL ANALYSEThe background and uses of Transactional Analysis, Contract for Change, The Structure of Ego States, Recognition and Relationships of Ego States, TA and Communication, Game Analysis & Drama Triangle, Racket Anallysis and Stamps, Basic life positions, The five Drivers, Script Theory, Discounting, Strokes and Autonomy
3 days / 21 hours
December 2005


COACHING INSTITUTE/Romania;led by Andy Szekely, NLPtrainer
Excellence in Training/ NLP Business ExcellenceNLP presuppositions, calibrations, Anchoring, New Behaviour generator, Neurological Levels Alignment, Future Pacing, Presentation Skills, Meta Programs, NLP Coaching, Conversational Coaching Model
4 days / 28 hours
October 2005

COACHING INSTITUTE/Romania; led by dr. Roger Greenaway,
Reviewing Skills Training, UK
Excellence in Training/ Experiential CommunicationUsing experience as the source of learning; Creating a culture of success, support. Action and participation; Ensuring the effective transfer of learning; Vreative Reviewing; Designing Debriefing.
3 days / 21 hours
March, 2006

COACHING INSTITUTE/Romania; led by Paula Botea, Insights Accredited Practitioner & Luminita Keles, Facet5 Practitioner
& dr. Horea Murgu, Coaching Institute President
Excellence in Training/ Personal Development and LeadershipExploring Personal Efficiency . Personal Success. Establishing a Life Goal and a Life Mission. Leadership.
5 days / 40 hours
February, 2006

Noble Manhattan/England ; led by Gerard O Donovan, MCC
The Noble Manhattan Introduction to Coach Training Day
1 day

Communication Sciences/Bucharest University
ADVERTISING/postgraduate
8 months
2004/2005

CODECS/Romania OPEN BUSINESS SCHOOL LONDON
Profesional Certificate in Management
6 month /12 days
1997/1998

and a really  relevant 5 years academic learning:
ELECTRONICS/PolytechnicUniversity Bucharest /Romania,
Research supervised by Rodica Strungaru, Phd, Medical Electronics
which led to a very useful paper I am still quoting in my present work in Nestworking:
''Coaching through biofeedback in heart diseases'' 
is a true systemic approach in any valuable development action.

 

11 dec. 2008

The Blink

Goethe spunea ca poezia e ocazionată.
Zilele astea țin un training pe comunicare, împreuna cu fellow Gabriel.
Si ziceam noi ca nu a fost timp de una-alta
si zice Gabi: ”so many things to do, so little time...”
si brusc se iveste o poezie - ”limbajul cel mai rapid” - cum zice Boris Pasternak

iata ce am scris -
editat ca Emily Dickinson, e si mai:

so many Things to do, so Little time..
your life is Flooded, so is mine.
but it will be a Blink - and that”s the Time -
when walking upon water, We”ll drink the Wine.

mda - greu de tradus in romaneste, ca orice spusa de calitate, neh?!
:)
If you want to be the best you have to work with those who are. Bob Isherwood

8 dec. 2008

As a professional nestworker


Ce pot sa fac pentru tine?Nestworking!
Să te ajut să vezi cât de mult îţi este îngăduit să speri să fii, să afli singur ce trebuie să faci pentru asta şi să te bucuri de ceea ce poţi, ştii şi faci ca individ sau ca organizaţie.
De mai bine de şapte ani, după coaching, am început să vad mai clar spirala virtuoasă, optimul spre care viaţa fiecăruia poate şi trebuie să crească: Growing is an act of freedom - obişnuiesc să spun.În anii 80, îmi dădeam licenţa în electronică cu lucrarea ”Antrenament/coaching prin biofeedback în afecţiuni cardiace”. Am pornit de la o frază dintr-o revistă englezească de medicină: Through coaching you build an energetic gradient for the change you want to achieve. Şi am ajuns la o frază dintr-o carte englezeasca de publicitate: To win in today’s marketplace, you have to attract and involve people . You have to love them. Love cannot be commanded. It can only be given.Sunt cele două puncte care determină o direcţie de viaţă şi mă bucur să constat că nu m-am abătut de la calea pe care am ales-o: grija faţă de cei din jurul meu, atenţia și afecţiunea, şi un fel de recunoaşte ''pre-dispoziţia pentru succes, de a celebra în fiecare om puterea lui de a fi tot ceea ce poate fi.
Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profundity. Kindness in giving creates love. - Lao Tse

7 dec. 2008

Ce cred eu că e important de ştiut despre mine

Că iubesc această viaţă şi oamenii, şi înţeleg prin aceasta că timpul existenţei oricărei persoane trebuie onorat.

E deseori citat Protagoras: ”omul e măsura tuturor lucrurilor”. Dar el spunea în continuare: ”a celor care sunt, cum că sunt, şi a celor care nu sunt, cum că nu sunt”.
Prin coaching ajungi să înţelegi corect măsura proprie, şi nu rişti să numeri lucrurile care sunt ca lucruri care nu sunt.

Pentru unii coachingul e inspiraţie!
Eu cred că e respiraţie: inspiraţie operaţionalizată, transpusă în realitate eficientă.
Se spune că nu există om care să nu se fi gândit că i se va întâmpla ceva benefic. Dar foarte puţini oameni acţionează pentru asta. Coachingul este favorizarea acestei acţiuni.

Cum arată o mică secvenţă de coaching:
- De ce cred în succesul dumneavoastră?
- Nu ştiu! Spuneţi-mi!
- Este întrebarea la care numai dumneavoastră aveţi răspunsul!

Ce am spus la prima Conferinţă naţională de Coaching din România

”Trăim într-un secol în care nu mai avem timp pentru noi.
Coachingul creează această incintă, acest spaţiu pentru sine.
Coachingul a apărut pe fondul acestei necesităţi de a avea un partener obiectiv.
Cel mai tare m-a impresionat felul în care dispari ca viaţă personală în faţa celui căruia îi oferi coaching: pur şi simplu nu mai eşti acolo!
De regulă, ne definim prin problemele noastre, prin ce e prin familie, prin interacţiunile de la serviciu. În momentul în care intri într-o şedinţă de coaching nu mai eşti acel om: eşti cu totul dedicat celuilalt. Nu am întâlnit nicăieri – în familie, cu prieteni, cu colegi – o astfel de dedicare: fără nici un fel de agendă ascunsă.”

http://www.managementsipsihologie.ro/site/film/6

timp de calitate

70 de ore de instruire în coaching, în cadrul unui program acreditat de ICF şi
susţinut de Alain Cardon, Master Coach, şi organizat de Coaching Institute.
77 de ore de supervizare a practicii coachingului coordonate de Alain Cardon,
Metasysteme, Franţa.
28 de ore de supervizare a practicii coachingului coordonate de Mihai Stănescu,
RoCoach, România.
zeci de ore de peercoaching, practică şi feedback pentru coaching, cu colegi de la primul
modul Fundamentele coachingului.
zeci de ore de coaching
sute de ore de training.

De ce mă ocup de coaching?

Pentru că în coaching este vorba de admiraţia faţă de încrederea celuilalt în sine însuşi, de preocuparea consecvent onestă faţă de celălalt, de respectul pentru ce este celălalt.

Alain Cardon, master coach-ul cu care am invatat fundamentele coachingului, a avertizat că e o chestie care îţi schimbă viaţa. Pot confirma că aşa s-a întâmplat şi că e bine.

Pentru că în coaching este vorba despre comunicare, despre cuvinte – şi cuvintele sunt semnele care denumesc acţiuni. Wittgenstein spune: ”Limitele lumii mele sunt limitele limbajului meu”.

Pentru că este timpul schimbării în felul în care înțelegem performanţa şi managementul organizaţiilor: Convergenta celor doua forţe – interesul companiilor pentru valoare si interesul oamenilor pentru identitate – va schimba peisajul organizaţional pentru totdeauna. (Gallup Organization)

Pentru că, la terminarea facultăţii de Electronică, proiectul de licenţă se numea Antrenament prin biofeedback în afecţiuni cardiace şi conţinea o frază pe care am ţinut-o minte ani de zile şi pe care am ”tradus-o” adecvat abia după ce am dobândit limba coachingului:
Dacă putem să ne antrenăm pentru comportamente fiziologice de succes, cu siguranţă putem să ne antrenăm pentru comportamente sociale de succes!

profil

INTELECT * IDEATION * INCLUDER * CONNECTEDNESS * STRATEGY

Am absolvit în cadrul Coaching Institute cursul Fundamentele coachingului şi Excelenţă in Training (şase module: NLP, analiză tranzacţională, dezvoltare personală, comunicare experienţială, train the traineres, coaching)
Deţin un Certificat profesional în management de la CODECS si in diagnoza organizational de la HUMAN SYNERGISTICS.
Am pregătire tehnică (facultatea de electronică) şi umanistă (psihologie, postuniversitar de publicitate, traininguri de PR şi marketing).
Aş putea obţine oricând un certificat de cititor profesionist.
Cat despre scris, multa vreme pe cartea mea de vizita scria.. textier :)

Livrez traininguri de Comunicare internă (cu un modul dedicat coachingului), Inteligenta emotionala, Managementul schimbarii, Relaţii publice şi Managementul imaginii, pentru firme şi instituţii publice.
Am început să practic coaching pentru oameni din business pentru că cred că toţi oameni pot fi fericiţi, şi că Socrate e om.

6 dec. 2008

To win in today’s marketplace, you have to attract and involve people . You have to love them. Love cannot be commanded. It can only be given. Kevin Roberts

5 dec. 2008

ambiguitate

Se spune ca scenariul celebrului Casablanca se scria pe masura ce se filmau scenele. Asa ca, nestiind cum se va derula povestea, care dintre cei doi barbati va fi alesul, lui Ingrid Bergman i s-a spus sa fie ambigua in relatiile cu ei.

As Time Goes By"
music and words by Herman Hupfeld

This day and age we're living in

Gives cause for apprehension
With speed and new invention
And things like fourth dimension.
Yet we get a trifle weary

With Mr. Einstein's theory.
So we must get down to earth at times
Relax relieve the tension
And no matter what the progress

Or what may yet be proved
The simple facts of life are such
They cannot be removed
You must remember this

A kiss is just a kiss, a sigh is just a sigh.
The fundamental things apply
As time goes by.
And when two lovers woo

They still say, "I love you."
On that you can rely
No matter what the future brings
As time goes by.
Moonlight and love songs

Never out of date.
Hearts full of passion Jealousy and hate.
Woman needs man
And man must have his mate
That no one can deny.
It's still the same old story

A fight for love and glory
A case of do or die.
The world will always welcome lovers
As time goes by.
Oh yes, the world will always welcome lovers

As time goes by.
© 1931 Warner Bros. Music Corporation, ASCAP

The ICF CODE OF ETHICS

Part One: The ICF Philosophy of Coaching
The International Coach Federation adheres to a form of coaching that honors the client as the expert in his/her life and work and believes that every client is creative, resourceful, and whole. Standing on this foundation, the coach's responsibility is to:
Discover, clarify, and align with what the client wants to achieve
Encourage client self-discovery
Elicit client-generated solutions and strategies
Hold the client responsible and accountable
Part Two: The ICF Definition of Coaching
Professional Coaching is an ongoing professional relationship that helps people produce extraordinary results in their lives, careers, businesses or organizations. Through the process of coaching, clients deepen their learning, improve their performance, and enhance their quality of life.
In each meeting, the client chooses the focus of conversation, while the coach listens and contributes observations and questions. This interaction creates clarity and moves the client into action. Coaching accelerates the client's progress by providing greater focus and awareness of choice. Coaching concentrates on where clients are now and what they are willing to do to get where they want to be in the future. ICF member coaches and ICF credentialed coaches recognize that results are a matter of the client's intentions, choices and actions, supported by the coach's efforts and application of the coaching process
Part Three: The ICF Standards of Ethical Conduct
Professional Conduct At Large
As a coach:
1) I will conduct myself in a manner that reflects positively upon the coaching profession and I will refrain from engaging in conduct or making statements that may negatively impact the public's understanding or acceptance of coaching as a profession.
2) I will not knowingly make any public statements that are untrue or misleading, or make false claims in any written documents relating to the coaching profession.
3) I will respect different approaches to coaching. I will honor the efforts and contributions of others and not misrepresent them as my own.
4) I will be aware of any issues that may potentially lead to the misuse of my influence by recognizing the nature of coaching and the way in which it may affect the lives of others.
5) I will at all times strive to recognize personal issues that may impair, conflict or interfere with my coaching performance or my professional relationships. Whenever the facts and circumstances necessitate, I will promptly seek professional assistance and determine the action to be taken, including whether it is appropriate to suspend or terminate my coaching relationship(s).
6) As a trainer or supervisor of current and potential coaches, I will conduct myself in accordance with the ICF Code of Ethics in all training and supervisory situations.
7) I will conduct and report research with competence, honesty and within recognized scientific standards. My research will be carried out with the necessary approval or consent from those involved, and with an approach that will reasonably protect participants from any potential harm. All research efforts will be performed in a manner that complies with the laws of the country in which the research is conducted.
8) I will accurately create, maintain, store and dispose of any records of work done in relation to the practice of coaching in a way that promotes confidentiality and complies with any applicable laws.
9) I will use ICF member contact information (email addresses, telephone numbers, etc.) only in the manner and to the extent authorized by the ICF.
Professional Conduct With Clients
10) I will be responsible for setting clear, appropriate, and culturally sensitive boundaries that govern any physical contact that I may have with my clients.
11) I will not become sexually involved with any of my clients.
12) I will construct clear agreements with my clients, and will honor all agreements made in the context of professional coaching relationships.
13) I will ensure that, prior to or at the initial session, my coaching client understands the nature of coaching, the bounds of confidentiality, financial arrangements and other terms of the coaching agreement.
14) I will accurately identify my qualifications, expertise and experience as a coach.
15) I will not intentionally mislead or make false claims about what my client will receive from the coaching process or from me as their coach.
16) I will not give my clients or prospective clients information or advice I know or believe to be misleading.
17) I will not knowingly exploit any aspect of the coach-client relationship for my personal, professional or monetary advantage or benefit.
18) I will respect the client's right to terminate coaching at any point during the process. I will be alert to indications that the client is no longer benefiting from our coaching relationship.
19) If I believe the client would be better served by another coach, or by another resource, I will encourage the client to make a change.
20) I will suggest that my clients seek the services of other professionals when deemed appropriate or necessary.
21) I will take all reasonable steps to notify the appropriate authorities in the event a client discloses an intention to endanger self or others.
Confidentiality/Privacy
22) I will respect the confidentiality of my client's information, except as otherwise authorized by my client, or as required by law.
23) I will obtain agreement from my clients before releasing their names as clients or references, or any other client identifying information.
24) I will obtain agreement from the person being coached before releasing information to another person compensating me.
Conflicts of Interest
25) I will seek to avoid conflicts between my interests and the interests of my clients.
26) Whenever any actual conflict of interest or the potential for a conflict of interest arises, I will openly disclose it and fully discuss with my client how to deal with it in whatever way best serves my client.
27) I will disclose to my client all anticipated compensation from third parties that I may receive for referrals of that client.
28) I will only barter for services, goods or other non-monetary remuneration when it will not impair the coaching relationship.
Part Four: The ICF Pledge of Ethics
As a professional coach, I acknowledge and agree to honor my ethical obligations to my coaching clients and colleagues and to the public at large. I pledge to comply with the ICF Code of Ethics, to treat people with dignity as independent and equal human beings, and to model these standards with those whom I coach. If I breach this Pledge of Ethics or any part of the ICF Code of Ethics, I agree that the ICF in its sole discretion may hold me accountable for so doing. I further agree that my accountability to the ICF for any breach may include loss of my ICF membership and/or my ICF credentials.
Approved 1/22/2005

Înţeleptul e senin şi curajos


Seninatatea de a accepta ceea ce nu poate fi schimbat. Curajul de a schimba ceea ce poate fi schimbat. Intelepciunea de a face deosebirea intre aceste doua posibilitati.

Citatul e adesea greşit atribuit Sfântului Augustin - şi, deseori, şi lui Marc Aureliu. Această variantă în limba română o am dinainte de epoca Internet. Abia după apariţia google am descoperit că autorul e un pastor american, iar spusa e cunoscută sub denumirea ''Serenity Prayer'' şi e cunoscută ca fiind folosită în cadrul terapiilor Alcoolicii Anonimi.
 

Totuşi, autorul rămâne incert. Mai multe pe acest link, de poe care am preluat şi imaginea de mai sus: Other attributions have gone as far afield as ancient Sanskrit texts, Aristotle, St. Augustine, St. Thomas Aquinas and Spinoza. One A.A. (AlcoholicsAnonymous) member came across the Roman philosopher Cicero's Six Mistakes of Man, one of which reads: "The tendency to worry about things that cannot be changed or corrected."