11 dec. 2023

Escape predictions attractivity i.e. competency attractivity

”Your experience of your body is actually constructed and experienced in your brain. Your body isn't what needs to be healed. What needs to change is your brain's predictions because those predictions are what construct your experience of your body in the world, and you have to find a way to break that cycle. You are not trapped in traumatic predictions. It is possible to change with a number of different methods.The kind of dominant treatments for trauma like yoga, the use of psychedelics, and sometimes, dance therapy, or something embodied, like theater — those are all really good ways of altering your predictions.

Partly what you're doing is creating new experiences for yourself to flesh out and make more flexible your brain's ability to predict differently in the future. You could describe the brain as a scientist, you know, a scientist with a hypothesis — that's what a set of predictions are. It's a belief, a guess about what sensations are about to happen, and why they happen. That's where those emotions come from. And so like a good scientist, you could test and see which hypothesis is the correct one.”

Excerpt from this short and spot-on video:

Coaching is not therapy - that must be crystal clear for all the professional coaches.
But change is to be pursued in both fields of intervention, and also resistance to change is a challenging situation.

We use in our workshops the word probability not in the mathematical perspective but in the sense of give it a try, where ”it” is a new response to an old - and well known! - state. 
So, I was pleased to notice that Lisa Feldman Barrett mention this very approach we also trust, she said: ”you could test”.

Also Nestworking group coaching workshop is focused on the very aim of make more flexible your brain's ability to predict differently in the future” (from the above transcript quote) - and in order to achieve that we use different appreciated perspectives.

Alfred Korzybski''s simple sentence "The map is not the territory" is a very useful - I would say - instrument to escape predictors of any sort, "trauma predictors" also. 

Another one is to be aware of self-fulfilling prophecy, and to seek signs in the "territory" that might not support the expected negative outcome. 

Another helpful practice is transactional analysis therapy - being aware of the games we play, of ego state we use to act, child and parent being predispose to "maps", therefore inflexibility, we need to grow adult state, "now and here" aka "territory" therefore flexibility. 

Of course, NLP, neurolinguistic therapy is another therapy that uses mind-body connection. 

Personally, I found being really effective "the inner game" technique, developed by Timothy Gallwey - the Self 1 is the one that sticks with the knowledge of traumatic event and predict it as soon as a slight sign is in sight, and the Self 2 is the one that actually is in contact with the reality - interestingly, Gallwey named those two "the teller" and "the doer" - in his first inner game take (on tennis). 

Last but not least, Daniel Kahneman "remembrance self" and "experience self" are useful perspectives to spring useful techniques. 

And speaking about techniques, the old findings about biofeedback in healing body disease are useful in healing mind dis-ease to.

Taking into account that ”remembrance self” is literally a story, we do use to ask our participants to write poems about experiencing nestworking to facilitate learning and change. 

But the main and foremost learning and practice is about attention - a skill participants reports they use as never in their life. Palo Alto axioms is our grounding soil to raise this essential skill. 

10 dec. 2023

Nestworking - o deprindere? Da! :)

Îmi place mult această variantă augmentată a Piramidei lui Maslow pentru că validează abordarea de tip NESTWORKING - empowerment pentru transformare. E simptomatic şi faptul că sunt zburători care mi-au spus că ar dori să susţină chiar ei atelierul, vor, adică, să sprijine transformarea altora: sunt în zona ''transcende''. Bun aşa!

Vorbeam aseară, la ultima sesiune de Nestworking I, despre practica RANDOM KINDNESS. Mi-am adus aminte de postarea asta de pe blog.

Deprinderea de a recunoşte bunătatea din fiecare om duce la dezvoltarea deprinderii de a recunoaste "bunatatea" fiecarei situatii - acel ''what is in here for me?'' Practicarea deprinderii consolideaza increderea si curajul de a alege asa cum vrei. Nimeni nu e "eu-actualizat" de altul...

1 dec. 2023

La multi ani, Romania

La mulți ani, societate civilă!
Caută să te găseşti
Că bine zice fata mea de la facultate: (unde "de la facultate" nu face referire la Caragiale ci inseamna din "activitatea minții" ei frumoase)

''Oamenii sunt puternici și faptele lor contează. Luați ca dovadă tot ce e negativ, dacă vă e mai ușor :)). Puterea crește cu antrenamentul, pe plus sau pe minus, cum o folositi" a zis Simina.

Ce mai scriu pe Facebook :)
Si am reluat o postare din 1 Decembrie 2015
Dragă societate civilă, la mulţi ani!
Când cauţi un om, chiar poţi să găseşti mulţi. Verificat.

''Oamenii sunt puternici și faptele lor contează. Luați ca dovadă tot ce e negativ, dacă vă e mai ușor :)). Puterea crește cu antrenamentul, pe plus sau pe minus, cum o folosiți.'', vorba Siminei Motanov

În Dangerous Minds e o replică-stem: ''How the fuck are you gonna save me from my life, huh?''
Păi, filmul se termină bine. (''Teiul m-a iubit şi pe mine'' 🙂 , vorba lui Nichita Stănescu )

Acu-acu, na!, vorba lu' Adi Despot, 'Îmi vine să te iau în braţe, mama ei de viaţă''

Am lăsat aceste hashtag : deși se refereau la acțiuni din acel an, imi par niște direcții de păstrat.

Imagine cu curtea noastră de la țară, de lângă Pitești, in 2015: