29 ian. 2013
”What do you really want?” Tim Gallwey (2)
4. You took your findings from sports to the corporate environment. Was it something you took from business to sports?
a. Most of my learning in sports was in individual sports, namely tennis, golf, and skiing. In business, I learned to help people work together in teams. This provided a new understanding for me of what is required in team sports.
5. The core of Inner Game – you said – is the belief that people have the innate capabilities to perform at an exellence level, and having the intention/wish/interest/ to live their lifes at that level. On the other hand there is so called Peter Principle: "in a hierarchy every employee tends to rise to his level of incompetence", meaning that employees tend to be promoted until they reach a position at which they cannot work competently. How does coaching work in this regard?
a. Obviously there are different levels of excellence in the mastery of any skill or knowledge base. Innate excellence lies in the ability to learn. From childhood on one can learn to increase competence. In some activities, like sports, competence can naturally decrease past a certain age.
b. Some abilities that need not decrease with age are the abilities to enjoy, to appreciate, to love.
c. The Peter Principle has to do with organizational behaviors, and does not speak to the ability to learn to increase competence once in a position beyond his competence. The coach’s job is to facilitate that learning.
6. As far as I know there were some Romanian participants at the Inner game seminar in London, last year. Did you noticed some limitting beliefs?
a. Every culture passes down its limiting belief’s. The differences between the specific limiting beliefs is not important. The coach’s opportunity is to learn to spot limiting belief’s and help the one being coached to move beyond those that he’s ready to.
b. We all have difficulties being creative enough to pass beyond the limits we impose on ourselves. Coaches can help if they realize that some limiting belief’s are valid and others the person is simply not ready to give up.
7. The folklor/proverbs/ of a nation is its “story” of - well – success. Romanian people have sayings like that: “To beat a child is a help from God to him”, “The bent head is not cut by the sword”, and, to be sure we are completely successful: “Time is not something to bother for”. What would be the appropriate coaching question for such a “body”? Particulary, in organizations.
a. I would ask questions that inquired into the extent that a person believed in such “truths” before the coaching workshop and then the same question after the training. Bringing belief’s from unconscious to conscious is the first step to examining them. Beliefs are not Knowledge. Once they are seen as only belief’s and not knowledge, they can best be changed by new experience and new insight.