29 ian. 2013

“What do you really want?” Tim Gallwey (3)

(last part)

8.    There is a focus on coaching skills management. How is it different from leadership skills management?

a.     I don’t know of an essential difference.

9.    How could be coaching applied in an educational system to prevent reinforcing Self 1 and to strength Self 2? Is it a matter of a right age?

a.      I believe that in general, the priorities of education could be changed from teaching subject matter to creating a love for learning in the given subject.

                                                             i.     The problem with the traditional reward system is that students who don’t know are made to feel bad about not knowing. Then they identify themselves as stupid and live up to their low expectations of themselves. This keeps them from inquiring and wanting to learn.

                                                          ii.     If it were considered a strength to know when you don’t know or understand, self-judgment could be greatly decreased and self 2 learning increased. 

10.    In your book “Inner Game of Work” one of the most important aspects is mobility. You assert:”A person who recognizes the importance of mobility is not satisfied with being in any flow, it must be in the flow of their choice, heading where they want to go.” On the other hand you do agree with Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi  in his description of performance as a ”flow state”. Did you mean ‘being in the flow’ is not the only stem of Self 2 at work?

a.     “Flow” describes the way of working, but not the direction or goal.  Self 2 is content when the end of working and the means of working are aligned.

11.    You work with Sir John Whitmore, Alan Fine and Myles Downey in developing Inner Game and GROW model. In a recent post on his website, Mr Downey wrote: “No one has the right to define coaching, at least not in the sense of how it is done – a particular model or approach.” What is your opinion on this aspect?

a.     Note: The first sentence is not really true and might be best to omit it.

b.    I work with Myles Downey on the development of an electronic coach (see theinnergame.com) and believe I understand what he means.  There is no individual or body that has authority over the coaching profession. This is the beauty of where the coaching profession is at right now.  It’s an emerging profession that is not fully defined.  Therefore there is lots of room for experimentation  It is ultimately the coaches that will succeed in defining coaching by their actions.  This is a big responsibility.

12.    If you it will be now the moment you start writing Inner Game. It will be “Inner Game of…”what? What would be different? 

a.     The Inner Game of Stress was published in 2010.  There would not be too much new.  Perhaps I could write a companion book to the Inner Game electronic coach, about how people could get the most out of it. 

13.    In the last 10 years people’s ways to communicate have changed dramatically. Are you planning a new book on the issue – Inner Game of Social Media? Anyway, you and Mr Downey have just launched an Inner Game eCoach.

a.     It is true that a new media for communication has emerged, but it doesn’t change the basics of communication.  The internet is a way of distributing communication instantly and widely.   It is because of this fact that Myles Downey and I thought that some of the benefits of coaching could be distributed to a much wider audience at the fraction of the cost of live coaching.  This is not an attempt to replace live coaching, but give millions of people access to coaching that have had none.

14.    There are 37 years since you launched The Inner Game of Tennis. I’ve read somebody naming you “grandfather of coaching”. As a “grandfather-coach in progress”, what would be a question from a “niece” for you to grow?

a.     Same old question – “What do you really want?”

b.    How can games and simulations be best used by the coaching profession?

c.     What are the most promising applications of electronic coaching in the corporate world.” 

d.    How can coaching best address the human domain of feeling?
           I would have to grow in knowledge and clarity to answer well any of these questions.