”What do you really want?” Tim Gallwey (1)

Tim Gallwey, in an interview I took three years ago:
Q: As a “grandfather-coach in progress”, what would be a question from a “niece” for you to grow?
A: Same old question – “What do you really want?”

Today is his birthday. God bless him.. further, I should say.

The interview was published in COACHING NETWORK, 
the only Romanian magazine on coaching.
I put it on this blog, but here you are it in English.

part 1 (it is a long interview :))

1.    People had being always coached one way or another. What was new in your approach with Inner Game? You know there is a rock band Modern Talking. Are you the “soloist” of  Modern Coaching?

a.      Modern coaching must contain the elements of excellence of ancient coaching.  Socrates is a good example of modern coaching.  Modern coaching should be as simple as the principles that have always been effective.  Developing the trust and respect with those you are coaching are ancient principles that are still true.  I would advise modern coaches to continue to increase their facility for honest inquiry in a way that helps those being coached to think for themselves.  The coach must trust the coachee so that the coachee can increase their trust in themselves. 

b.    Having said that, the modern coach must encourage a new kind of accountability as well as empowerment.  Some have learned the ways of empowerment of employees of an organization – a skill set that is much needed when the employee is feeling disempowered and victimized by the larger organization.  But empowerment must now be balanced by accountability not only to those in the organization but to oneself.  Accountability can be re-defined as the ability to be counted upon. 

c.     As far as being a soloist – I’m the only one who can sing my heart’s song.  In that sense everyone should be a soloist and keep their coaching relevant to both the age old needs as well as to those needs that are more current.

2.    How did coaching evolve? What do coaches have to preserve while experiencing new tools or coaching models?

a.     I hope coaching is evolving towards helping those coached be more aware, clearer about their commitments, and more trusting in their better selves.  Tools can always evolve that help people move in the direction of desired outcomes in a way that is fulfilling and in a time that is satisfactory.

3.    In one of your interviews you said that people are doing that or that in order to “have fun” and you assert that empirical way is the only one that works. What could be a physiological (neuronal) support for what you call “magic”?

a.     In my view what I call Self 2, the innate potentialities of human beings is always magical when not surpressed or distorted by Self 1, the critical, imposing, controlling self that has been conditioned to interfere with the excellence of Self 2.  You can see this magic in any young child, can’t you?  Also in any adult who overcomes the self- interferences of Self 1 for a given period of time. 

b.    I have been told by reputable neuroscientists that this view finds evidence in the latest brain research.  But I cannot speak to this with authority.  My evidence lies in the domain of observation of clients. 

http://coaching2success.blogspot.ro/2013/01/what-do-you-really-want-tim-gallwey-2.html

http://coaching2success.blogspot.ro/2013/01/what-do-you-really-want-tim-gallwey-3.html

Attention, please, here ;-)

 

Those who follow me on facebook – and not only ;-) –

knows I do admire and support a purple coach (!) Motanov Motanul Mov*

He is an imagination coach, and he works helping people to feel, you know:

”I feel my life growing great on me!”

He has daily imagination trainings on his wall.

http://www.facebook.com/motanov

He and Simna Diaconu are the editors of

a unique literary short-story magazine in Romania

”Revista de Povestiri”.

It is a very interesting project to keep people reading literature

altogether understanding the new reading habits.

Or, shall I say ”living habits”.

So, it is an attention&love approach.

It happens I knew people before participating,

and being coached by Motanov, and read the stories

and it is a remarkable change in the way they access their creativity,

and deal with daily life situations. 

Now, they want to make all that accessible

to be read in English:

a selection of the best texts which have been published

in the 2012’s issues of Revista de Povestiri (March – December).

This Best Of edition will have 100 pages and 1000 copies.

Please, do learn more about the project and how to support it: http://mindfruit.ro/project/Revista-de-Povestiri-Best-of-2012-editie-in-engleza_2

*about Motanov, here you are how a pleasant surprise springs from.. attention&curiosity -

both inner cats qualities which they never forget to use

(apart of us, human :))

http://www.themusingsofacrazycatlady.com/2012/08/how-do-you-say-cat-in-romanian_11.html

Attention, please!

Lack of attention is consuming your life –
literally, it shrinks life.

Attention is the very goods you offer as a coach –
lets name an ”in-loved attention”,
to freely translate Carl Rogers’ unconditional love.
Be an ”in-love stand-by” for each and every one
it will grow you both!

Be attentive is your given right to be great.

”You don't do anything, you let it evolve”

”A înţelege nu e cuvântul potrivit.

Cât timp doar ”înţelegi” nu eşti în ceea ce înţelegi.

Pentru mine, trăirea unui lucru e cel mai important aspect.

Dacă un tânăr poate să treacă prin experienţa 

despre care vorbesc eu ca fiind importantă,

nu doar să creadă ce îi spune Celibidache, 

atunci există speranţa să ajungă cu adevărat la muzică.

Faptul că oameni tineri pot avea asemenea 

rezultate extraordinare nu este o întâmplare.

Lupţi din greu. Sunt vrăjit.

Va fi muzică după mine.

Nu numai note, tonalităţi şi intrări reuşite -

ci măreţie.”

Sergiu Celibidache 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EMN4-BkXiBc

Dacă drumul e scopul, te grăbeşti sau nu te grăbeşti?!

”A ajuns o banalitate să susţii că 
experienţa drumului spre un scop e mai preţioasă decât scopul însuşi, 
care apare, în definitiv, ca un simplu prilej 
de a structura această experienţă în reprezentări posterioare. 

Un scop atins - oricare ar fi el - nu are altă valoare decât 
cea pe care i-o dăruieşte drumul parcurs până la el; 
or omul grăbit nu-şi atinge niciodată scopurile, 
pentru că face abstracţie tocmai de drumurile care îl duc spre ele. 

Grăbitul străbate în eternitate un nesfârşit deşert. 
Sub privirea lui, totul se preface în nisip: 
astfel că în fuga lui nebună, lipsit de orice punct de reper, 
el stă de fapt pe loc. 
A fi grăbit - arată Zacharias Lichter - 
înseamnă a urî lumea sau a nu şti s-o iubeşti - 
ceea ce e totuna.” 
Matei Călinescu/Zacharias Lichter

”Boss, you move me..

 ...  toward me!”

Leadership-ul actual are mare nevoie de vechiul meşteşug de a mişca – în toate sensurile acestui cuvânt. Liderul este un nonsens (sic) fără efectul de a crea o mişcare către împlinirea viziunii pe care o propune. Şi oriunde e vorba de acţiune pentru realizarea unui obiectiv contractat pentru a asigura creştere organică e nevoie de coaching pentru alegerea optimă. (optimism vine de la optim!)

Un conducător trebuie să aibă şi să transmită viziune, organizaţia trebuie să atingă ţinte. Dar liderul nu mai poate conduce ”de pe deal”, şeful de echipă nu mai e cel care pune praful de puşcă – fiecare soldat are controlul propriei ”încărcături”. Mult clamata renunţare la control nu înseamnă pierderea controlului ci.. întărirea lui prin asumarea responsabilităţii şi gestionarea ”mişcării” de către fiecare angajat. A fi responsabil şi în mişcare spre obiectivul dorit implică atenţie, înţelegere, dedicare, creativitate, încredere în sine, control al rezultatelor, învăţare, ajustare şi dezvoltare (schimbare), atenţie şi tot aşa. Responsabilitatea de şi mobilitatea spre scop sunt deprinderi care se antrenează.

”Cum să fiu tot ce pot să fiu?” e o întrebare de antrenament. Liderul e (şi) coach.

(fragment din editorial, revista Coaching Network, numărul 2, Coaching şi Leadership)

New Year & Co

Dear Friends,
it is always a wise approach to let things get a direction - so
after 10 days, I may assume for good that this year is OK
and you will have a Happy New Year!
:))
Best wishes,
Magda

(thanks Erik for the occasion to write it,
and Jolanta for the occasion to refine it)